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Why I Photograph Intimate Portraits

June 09, 20194 min read

I could throw words out there like ’empowerment’ and ‘body positive’ and maybe that would be enough for some, but those words start to lose meaning after I say them so many times, to so many people.

So here’s the real scoop. I like ice cream. I like to sit and watch Netflix with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. I like eating pizza and popcorn every Friday night. And when I see those women who have smaller waists, and less chins, and perfectly toned arms, I loathe myself for my life choices. But I want to be ok with the ice cream, the pizza, the champagne and the weight/rolls that come with it. I want to see the good stuff in the mirror, and not the failures or moments of weakness.

I want to see the smiling cuddling photo my husband snapped of me and one of my kids on the bed, and not hate him for getting such a bad angle. I want to treasure those five-chin photos because i’m smiling, in bed, with one of my kids, and it’s a memory they’ll always love too. I want to take selfies with my kiddos and not avoid doing so because i’m wearing mom clothes or have my hair in a lame pony tail.

I want to exist more in photos.

So, I did my first boudoir session as a 10th anniversary gift to my husband. At the time I was about 25 pounds heavier than I had been in recent years, and I wasn’t thrilled with my body. I didn’t feel sexy, I didn’t feel pretty, and I couldn’t believe that I was going to do this portrait session at my heaviest.

Guess what happened? My god the angles, the lighting, the sexiness I felt, the adrenaline (or whatever that was) that came out of nowhere and took over, it made me feel different. I felt womanly. I felt sensual. And holy f$@! I looked damn good in those photos. Even my rolls, well they were sensual, they looked like they were on a confidant ass woman, and it changed me.

On a side note, my husband was more than thrilled. I’ve never seen such a look on his face. Proud, excited, genuinely moved that I would do this for him. And I think he knew, I think he knew that this was me going way out of my comfort zone, and it made him feel that much more.

So I decided this is what I HAD TO DO, was give women that feeling. If I told you then that I was confident, and full of body positivity, I’d be lying… I wasn’t. Boudoir isn’t just for women who know how sensual they are. It’s for the rest of us, who judge our bodies and shame ourselves. It’s for those of us who choose the ice cream and then shame ourselves later. Because you see, I gained that body positive feeling from DOING A BOUDOIR SESSION. I felt EMPOWERED by my own skin and the ways I’d learned to move it, dress it in the bedroom (or undress it) and knew that I actually looked really f’ing hot doing so.

If you’ve ever thought about doing a session, and want to lose 10 pounds first… I say girl… eat the ice cream… and all the pizza… and THEN come show up at my door and do the boudoir session. Because I’ll show you just how f’ing hot you look NOW.

So my advice to you, my friend, is to click below and setup a chat with me. I will talk you through this, and get your date on the calendar. And that date is a date of changing how you see yourself… NOT changing how you look.

I will guide you through how to prep, what to bring, and what to expect during your session. I will calm your fears and share with you how awkward every single woman feels when she arrives, and how amazing she feels as she leaves, full of confidence and pride.

My friend, you deserve to be in photographs. And I’m here to get that mindset shifted and give you an experience that will make you want to be photographed.

With love, and lots of chins… your friend, and guide the boudoir galaxy,


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